Wedding Advice I Wish I Had Before I Said “I Do”
Your wedding day is one of the most meaningful milestones in your life — a beautiful celebration of love, the closing of one chapter, and the beginning of a brand new one. At L Relyea Events, we’re all about helping you plan an unforgettable wedding day — duh! — but we also care deeply about what comes after the vows are spoken and the last dance ends. Because marriage isn’t just about a perfect day. It’s about a lifetime.
Let’s be honest: weddings get a lot of attention (as they should!), but the foundation of a successful marriage often doesn’t get talked about enough. As wedding planners and long-time industry professionals, we’ve seen countless couples start their journey together — and we’ve also seen what it takes to go the distance.
Whatever it is, the way you tell your story online can make all the difference.
Real Talk: Marriage Starts After the Wedding
Back in the day, officiants were more than just the person who performed your ceremony. Many were seasoned marriage counselors who met with couples multiple times before the big day. They didn’t just ask how you met — they dove deep. They wanted to know who you are as individuals, how you support each other, what values you share, and whether you're truly ready for the journey ahead.
These conversations were full of wisdom. They helped couples prepare not just for a wedding, but for a marriage. Because the truth is, after the honeymoon fades and real life begins, it’s the little things — the choices you make every day — that determine whether your marriage will thrive.
Timeless Marriage Advice From Couples Who've Been There
If you’ve been to a few weddings, you’ve probably heard advice from couples who’ve been married for decades. The ones with gray hair, soft smiles, and quiet confidence. Their words aren’t trendy, but they’re true. Here are three pieces of advice we hear again and again — and completely stand behind:
Keep Dating Each Other
Marriage doesn’t mean the end of romance. In fact, it’s where the real adventure begins. Keep pursuing each other — go on dates, surprise one another, laugh often, and try new things together.
Don’t be fooled by “greener grass.” The grass is greenest where you water it.
2. Make Time for Just the Two of You
Life gets busy — careers, kids, commitments — and suddenly, weeks go by without quality time together. Make it a priority.
Whether it’s a weekly date night or a quiet walk, carve out space that’s just for the two of you. Protect it like your marriage depends on it — because it does.
3. Don’t Go to Bed Angry (Seriously)
We know, this one's tough. But unresolved tension can build up like a slow leak in your relationship. Instead of letting resentment fester, talk things through — even when it’s uncomfortable. Listen. Share. Find common ground. And then? Hug it out. Really. Research shows that hugging for even 20 seconds releases oxytocin, the love hormone, helping rebuild emotional connection.
Planning Your Wedding is Just the Beginning
At L Relyea Events, we pour our hearts into creating extraordinary weddings — but we also believe in helping couples prepare for what comes next. Your wedding is one day. Your marriage is a lifetime.
So as you plan your perfect celebration, don’t forget to plan for forever.
Ready to plan a wedding that’s as meaningful as your love story?
Let’s connect — contact us today www.lrelyeaevents.com/contact to start planning your dream day (and your beautiful future)
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